Dating is hard for short guys

They can have a great sense of humor, be the life of the party, or the nurturer who is always taking care of everyone and making sure everyone’s okay.

While the school and college years are typically defined by conformity and image consciousness, one’s adult years – say, one’s 20s and 30s – are intended to be periods of growth and individuation.

The message many women send short men goes something like this: Yeah, sorry, but nothing you could say or do could ever give you a chance with me. For those of you who insist that you’re not attracted to short men, you should, at least, try to have a good reason why you’re not.

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Sexual attraction largely derives from your upbringing.

What’s interesting about my client, Alexis, is that she had it wrong when it comes to her attitude about short men.

All this time, she’d told herself that she didn’t like short men because she simply wasn’t sexually attracted to them; in fact, the real reason she wasn’t attracted to short men was because she had a fixed image in her mind of what a man should look and act like as a result of her upbringing, and she needed the men she seeks out romantically to fit the same exact image of the men in her family. I spend more hours than you’d believe trying to help men and women change the type of person to whom they’re sexually attracted. The first step is to dig deep and ask yourself what in your history makes you attracted to a certain type, as well as what in your history repels you from a certain type.

In my work with women, I’ve found that there are two basic reasons why most women won’t date a short man: Some women will feel nervous about being too big, telling themselves they’ll look smaller if they’re with a bigger guy; others simply want the knight in shining armor, and they need a man to live up to a fantasy image of masculinity and size, telling themselves that a bigger man is also automatically emotionally stronger, too.

Don’t let this kind of distorted thinking get in the way of meeting someone really great.

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